Fresher?

[lovechandigarh]

FRESHERS CHECKOUT

Where to begin it all: How, Where, When, What of Lovology…



WHERE:

• It could be a place where people of your age sharing similar interests tend to hangout. It may be your vicinity garden or a local restaurant. It’s important to select the right location for the right mood. Hanging around a gym where you can see great looking bodies isn’t a great idea when your most strenuous activity is clicking the mouse or switching TV channels with your remote!
• Try meeting someone in a group at public events. Go to the movies, dinners, parties, a concert or sports event with a group of friends, acquaintances or colleagues… meeting new people when in groups allows you to make new friends without being pressured to date them. In fact, most young people don’t initially date anymore; they just meet someone special, in the company of others! Eventually some may pair-off!

HOW:

• A friend or acquaintance can introduce you or set-up a meeting with someone you might like to get to know better. It’s helpful to let your friends be your guide. They may not always choose right, but when they do, it’s a great way to make new friends… and maybe, even find a soul mate in the bargain.
• Go up to someone who catches your eye, and strike up a conversation. That’s often the scariest part of meeting people. But if you are anxious about making the first move, take comfort in the fact that most people are nervous. Even renowned celebrities like Shahrukh Khan are nervous at times, in real life!
• Girls! Don’t be afraid to make the first move… Some of the nicest guys are also the shyest!
• Remember, there are no guarantees. You may be at your wittiest, smartest, zingiest best and he / she may not still bite the bait. Don’t let this faze you. It doesn’t mean that you two didn’t match. After a while, you’ll be able to figure out what kind of people to approach… Practice makes a….

Good Luck!

[lovechandigarh]

GUYS CHECK THESE OUT BEFORE YOU SAY…

• “You looked so bored, I thought I’d come and talk to you.” Will it work out? NOPE. Projecting yourself, as a saviour is demeaning and a definite put-off. Women crave for love, respect and a separate identity, give them this and they are yours!
• “It’s so cold / hot / wet…” and you think this whether talk would work for romance as it does for the news bulletin ending? Try to avoid talking about strange whether phenomenon, they are the most boring of all for girls, even if she is a newsreader!
• “ I think I’ve seen you somewhere…aapko pahle kahin...” Some clinches work, most don’t. Try being a bit more innovative… keep reading…
• “Wanna dance / drink?” You may think that you are being direct, to the point; but inarticulate, Big Moose behaviour has a very limited appeal.
• “ This may sound as if I’m trying to pick you up but…” and it does! So drop it unless you want to spend an evening with a person who’d fall for that line. And with a little patience, the right time and you are there… in each other’s arms!

GREAT BEGINNERS FOR YOU GUYS AND GALS…

Time to act and show your guts, pals!

• “ Hi!” follow this up by introducing yourself.
• “ I have this strange feeling that you are going to spend the rest of your evening staring at me. So I thought I’ll pull you out of your misery and say hello…” Very direct, but works for women if you’re fairly sure that he’s interested but shy. Make sure that he’s been staring at you for atleast the last five minutes before you try it.
• “ I couldn’t help noticing what a great smile / hair / voice / eyes you have. My name is…” a good opener for men if it is said in an amiable, admiring way. And stick to non-sexual parts, please!
• “ Have you heard the one about…” humour is always a good icebreaker, but venture it only if you know how to tell a joke without a botching up the punchline. For God’s sake, be careful about dirty jokes (non-veg) – it without fail gives an initial sleazy impression! Be a bit patient, let some time pass and then you can act in accordance with your mate (crack as much filth, it’s safe then!).
• “ That thumping noise is my heart beating in my mouth. If you can try and ignore that and my nervous tic, can I have the privilege to dance with you?” Being honest with your nervousness works well, especially with women. It makes you more human, likeable, accessible and teamed up with a smile, it’s simply irresistible!