19-02-2008, 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Đεω ĐřΘþ§  I would like to share this article I found on net on this topic 
There are three big negative consequence of Spoiling our Innocent Children.
First, it fosters addictive behavior. Children fill up from the outside with things and activities rather than filling up from the inside through caring and creativity.
When we offer our children too many toys, too many activities, too much comfort food, or allow too much TV, we are not loving them. We are training them to be addicted. Another trap is providing things or activities for our children while denying our own needs. It's not loving to children to give in to their every demand, especially if it means putting yourself aside. When you constantly give in to your children and deny your own needs, children learn that it's okay to disregard others needs and be demanding brats. Children may not learn to consider others if you do not expect them to consider you by considering yourself. They will learn to treat you the way you treat yourself, so it is not loving to your children to disregard yourself. When you disrespect yourself, you teach your children to be disrespectful. One of the big issues in our society is that children learn to identify their self-worth with others' approval for how they look, how many toys they have and how expensive their clothes are. Unless parents show their children that they value them for their inner qualities -- their caring, creativity, compassion, laughter, joy and passion for life -- rather than for their looks, possessions and performance, children learn to attach their self-worth to others’ approval. True self-worth comes from inside, from knowing we are valuable for who we are and not for how we look or what we do. Unfortunately, our materialistic society fosters attaching self-worth and lovability to outside approval for things such as a car or a house or clothes. When we "spoil" our children with material possessions, we foster co-dependency on outside approval.  | bahut vadiya priya ji gud hai  | | |
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